Friday, July 29, 2011

Mirror, Mirror: Time for Reflection

I began sharing about my little Dance Parties in August, last year.
After I'd lost 100 pounds.
After the 18 months it took to lose those pounds
after keeping off those 100 pounds for almost six months.
Almost an entire year ago.
It has been almost 36 months (three years!) since this ALL started
and almost 12 months since I started talking about it.

I can't tell you just how difficult it was for me to open up
and start talking.
You'd think I would have been
chomping at the bit
fit to be tied
shouting at the top of my lungs
about losing 100 pounds.
But. I. Wasn't.

I mean, I was thrilled and proud.
I was amazed by my accomplishment
Quite in love with my new self
and over the moon about how my body had changed.

there was still something about it
I wanted to keep hidden
just mine.

it was the shame.
I was still burdened by the shame.
The shame of where I had been.
What I had become.
How far I had let myself go before
Leading up to the weight loss.

You see, through the beauty of social media (aka Facebook),
I had reunited, remembered, reconnected with and reminisced
with literally hundreds of high school and college friends
didn't know
hadn't seen
had no idea
who I was now....
how I looked

And it's not that it mattered to them
it's not that it would have made a difference
it's not that they would have commented to me
or thought bad things
or made me feel big, or fat or ugly.
It's just that I didn't want them to remember me any way other than
Who I was before.
When I was regular sized.
When I was light-hearted
and fun.
When I was depression-free
Out there, and open.
Before I hid.
Before I made excuses
Before I had lost ME under the layers of life.

Ironically, it was that same
social media (aka Facebook)
that gave me the nudge, support, strength and
to re-charge, change, re-engage, re-connect and begin living again.

It was remembering
Me Moments
Friend Moments
College Days
High School Classes
and the people who knew me
counted me as a friend
remembered my quirks
watched me grow up
grew up with me
faced life beside me
walked through life, puberty, graduation, boyfriends, break-ups
everything else
Who reminded me
of me

I looked at my friends,
and it was as though
they were holding up a mirror in front of me
This is you.
THIS memory of you, is still you.
These year book images
These faded photos
These tales
These first impressions
These clubs, dorms, activities, organizations, classes we shared...they are where I have memories of you, Becky.
You are WHO I remember.
This is how I see you now.
This is who you are to me.

And when I connected with
and reminisced....
I wanted to go back.
ALL of me,
wanted to go back.

Not to 15
or 18
or 21
or 25
(I really have no interest in going backward in time.
I love where I am in my life.
I love it)
I wanted to go back
to get back
to ME.
I wanted to get ME back.

So, I started from the inside
Then I went to work on the outside.
I went back in my mind and my heart.
Went back to the purest times in my life,
when I was becoming
and I set out to regain those parts again.
I did it.

YOU, old friend, are more a part of this journey than you have realized.
YOU, who are still with me, reading this blog
(or not reading completely unaware of your power and influence)
YOU are a part of my journey.

Though I was afraid, at first
to show you how I had changed
to reveal how I had in form become someone else,
it was YOU....
It was YOU who helped me change again...back to my former self.
It was YOU who helped me get inside my head and my heart
and grow back into who I really wanted to be.

Thank you.
Thank you for remembering me.
Reminding me.
And showing up, in your own
impacting way,
for this Dance Party for One.

Call an old friend today.
Remember the old days.
Remind yourself of your greatest memories
your funnest times
your most meaningful moments
and remember yourself.
and go back.
Get your SELF back again.
From the inside, out.

That's all.
Be Your Best!

Thursday, July 14, 2011

Note to Self (and anyone else who's reading...)

Stock up on cute, flirty sundresses & halter dresses when they go on clearance.
Stop hiding your arms!
Better yet, buy a pair of 8lb dumb-bells and start doing simple sets of 15 "what-evers" with them
before you get dressed in the morning
and after you brush your teeth at night.

Touch up your roots when they start showing!

Stop going out to eat. 
Eat the groceries in your pantry! 
You paid good money for them. 
Stop being lazy...
get up and 
make something in YOUR kitchen.

Buy (& wear) a cheap pair of big hoop earrings for the pool.
Get a pair of flipflops with a little bling when they go on sale for next year at the pool.
Find a picture of the fabulous swimsuit (a two-piece!) you want for next year.
Post it some place to inspire you all summer (fall and winter) long.

Buy some lipgloss....something from the CORAL family.
Keep it in your beach/pool bag and use it liberally while you're out.

Buy a case of Fresca (Peach Citrus).
Tastes like Summer.

Commit to read a great book for each WEEK remaining in your summer.
Turn off the television and read something:
Magazines, non-fiction, even a romance novel (I mean it!)

Rent your favorite movies from the 80s.
(or whenever you were highschool)
Quote as many lines as you can remember.
Share them with your kids (if suitable).

Go out with your girlfriends.
Eat outside.
Get loud. Really loud.
Laugh Out Loud.

Call your best friend and cry.
Really Cry.
Really let it out.
She'll understand.
She might be needing a good cry, too.

Cuddle with your kids (if they'll let you).

Buy a summery scented candle
and shower gel
or bubble bath
Close the door to the bathroom
run yourself a warm bath.
Slice a lemon into sections,
put a spoonful of sugar on a plate
and soak your worries away
as you dredge the lemon through the sugar.
Savor the flavor.

Don't cut your hair!
Let it air dry.
Find some new way to wear it.
Buy a new hair band or clips.
Do something different with it.
Or get a straw cowboy hat and wear it.

Use lots of Aveeno body lotion.
(Put it on after you get out of the shower,
BEFORE you dry'll work even better!)

Play music.
Play music
and sing along.

Have fun
Feel alive
Watch as many sunsets as possible.
Eat ice cream
and watermelon!

Soak in summer for all it has to offer.
Feed yourself on summer.

That's all.
Make this your best summer EVER!
Be your best!

Stop eating
Start feeding yourself, Becky!!!!
(and everyone else!)